Modern Sita

Modern Sita

Chapter-1

Introduction to Sita:

It was late in the night, people were celebrating diwali, and the roads were covered with the mist of sulphur. My wife was pregnant and she started feeling the pain, I took her to the hospital, it was raining heavily, the traffic was less, there was a power cut, we reached the hospital by 12:00 AM. Doctor said that they need to do the operation, they took the signature from me, I was worried about my wife, than my child.

Finally the doctor came at 4:00 AM, and told, both are safe.

I ran to see my new family member. She was fair, with her eyes tightly closed, she looked like young fairy wrapped in white cloth. I touched her soft fingers; she was in deep pain and struggling to breathe after entering the new world, she grasped my finger and didn’t let it go. This is none other than my daughter Sita.

I took sita and my wife to home, my parents and relatives were waiting to see her. My princess was afraid to see the crowd but we managed to pacify her.

People were calling me as sinner to be a girl’s father! But I didn’t care, for me sita is my  second mother! God created man for some reason, so is women, if both are present human race will survive, think of a world without woman,

Agreed no ego problem, but problem can exist only if life exists!

Chapter-2

Sita’s First Lesson

Sita turned 1, she started talking. She calls “mova….”, “paghu….” she recognizes me well, she crawls and comes to me like thunder light! She observes my action and repeats whatever I do. Once she noticed me having cigarette, while doing the office work, she took a cigar from my box and kept on her mouth.

After that day I quitted smoking, there are other ways to release our tension; for e.g. listening to music gives relaxation.

It was sept 1987; I was reading the news paper, now she started walking with her tender legs, she was looking at me as a usual kid does, I didn’t pay much attention intentionally. Suddenly she fell down, my wife took her on to her lap and pacified her, my sita was questioning me why “paghu” didn’t care! I was able to read it through her eyes!

She started falling down, everyday I stopped my wife to pacify her, suddenly sita behaved differently, she repeated exactly what my wife use to do!, she rubbed her head and legs, wiped her tears and then started moving on her tender legs.

Children’s are best learners, they adapt to the world around them quickly. They take up things as it comes without analyzing! If I or my wife would have pacified her every time, she would look for us every time; my sita learnt her first lesson of life.

We start our life with tears and leave the tears in others while leaving this world, why to waste the precious tears, use them as a medium to release your emotions in front of people with whom you are comfortable and who knows its value!

Chapter -3

Other’s Perception of Sita

There was a  strike in my company, people were loosing job, i too lost mine, everyday I returned home without job, but whenever I see my sita’s innocent smile, I  get the confidence that some is there for me; who still believes in me!

My relatives asked to visit an astrologer; I don’t believe in such things, but went to him on my wife’s compulsion. He put the blame on Sita, he told “She is ill luck for you!” as she born on an inauspicious time!  

I am a firm believer on mathematics of hard work and not on the luck; Time is just a measurement, on revolution of earth and not the evaluation of a person’s life!

I ignored his words and returned home. But my wife was disturbed.

My wife asked me, could that be true?, as she was a strong believer on astrology!

I asked her do you believe in lord Krishna.

She said yes! Just think sita as Krishna.

Did his parents hate him? For their ill fortune?

It is better to convey things to people through their belief, rather than scientific approach. As it will fail most of the times. After a month, life became normal, till now I haven’t faced any problems with respect to job.

If any problem occurs in our life, it is because of our actions or the perceptions of ours or perception of what we have created ourselves on others, and not because of any one’s horoscope!

Chapter-5

Sita Going to School

Years passed, sita turned 5. It is time to put her on school. People gave a lot of suggestions, but I chose an average school, everyone criticized me that I am a miser.

Sita went to school, with her big bag like a military man, now she doesn’t looks for me, she got into her school van and told me bye just for courtesy!

For me knowledge comes from experience of life and observation and not from the books. No one can be forced to learn, they will learn if they want. As a parent we should direct them to the correct path, along with the confidence of moving forward.

I was not good in English; I cleared my paper in my last attempt only!, most of the times I heard that “I don’t deserve to study in a English school”, I had a tough time with English, I hated it because of others, soon I realized that mistake was not with English, it is with the teachers who doesn’t understand the psychology of a child. No point having bunches of degree when you are not able to deliver the education to every child of the class.

I don’t want to give my child the same education. We started watching English channels, whenever sita was at home. But we did teach her, our native language. There is no point in reading a English book to a child who doesn’t want to read or hear, rather we can do what they like, show them a foreign language movie with subtitle.

In this way they grasp things quickly. This is what I did to sita during her childhood. Now she is able to speak English fluently.

No point in putting child in a factory called school, who could just deliver same product with different barcode without any creativity.

Education can be learnt from Google or school, but not the creativity and confidence of facing world!

Chapter -6

Sita Listening to bedtime stories

After school hours she used to come to me and asks for stories, Sita is not an ordinary child, and she doesn’t stops asking questions! Until she is satisfied!

Once my wife was saying the epics to her,

She told about the blue god her favorite, and how he fought for his wife.

When my wife completed the narration, sita blasted her with questions.

She asked “do we follow the same pattern of marriage as the blue god.” 

My wife told, “yes dear!”

“Yesterday we went for uncle’s marriage, did the aunty also paid wealth for her husband as they did for the blue god?”

My wife told, “Yes dear!” it is the tradition!

“But I didn’t see the uncle breaking the bow for marring her! Why is that so?”

“You told the blue god suspected his devi, but why devi didn’t suspect him, he was also away from her in the mean time?”

“So we follow epics partially?”

Many times we get enlighten by children in some way, but it is difficult to accept the facts.

I realized that epics are just the collections of various characters, an guide for our life what to do and what not to do, how to correct and prevent the mistakes, that is why the epics are depicted by god in human characters, and to convey  that good men are not correct always.

But as a human or god we can correct our mistakes. When “dropati” was insulted, lord Krishna protected her as a brother, just to depict that men should have this character, you need not have blood relation to have a sister and not that Krishna will come to protect his sisters in 21^st century! And his friendship with “kuselan” shows how simple person one should be in spite of  ones power and status.

Character “Arjuna” being as hermaphrodite in Padma Purana also shows that every gender are equal in this world. The couple should share the good and bad time just like “kanthari”.

Just a thought of killing a deer lead to Ramayana, life is same no matter it is deer or human, and the character of hanuman shows god exists in animals and don’t hurt them they love you back and helps you when you protect them.

But most of the time we just take the character which we want from the epic. There is no mistake with the epic; it is how we interpret it.

Chapter-7

Sita at toy shop

We took sita to toy shop, got her educational toys along with other toys. We used to spend lot of time while selecting the toys.

Most of the time Medias influences a child’s mind especially children’s whose source of entertainment are televisions. Children’s mind are like canvas, being painted by medias people around them and the toys with which they play. The girls usually like teddy bears because their appearance is soft, and that is why we see them more affectionate to pets. But advertisements and toys with bad dress can affect their mind, for girls they loose their confidence and they believe that they will be saved by some heroes and they should dress like a “Barbie doll” and boys believe that “woman” are use and throw toys and they depend on them in every day life. What would happen if we give a “Jhansi Rani” doll to a girl and make her to watch a cartoon based on her life! No matter educations has given confidence to the woman, but building’s strength comes from the foundation not on what is being built on foundations.

I used to show her the movie which revolves on a woman’s strong character, it is better to describe a woman as a lioness rather than a flower or a bird. This builds the child’s confidence right from the childhood.

Chapter-8

Sita as a teenager

Time has passed, now my sita is into college, my sita is different from others, she improved her skills by just watching good content from life,

she is a self learner like “Arjuna”,

She differs from other girls, she doesn’t wear the stuffs which other girl wears, and she goes out boldly at night time!

Once she saved a girl from a guy, in spite of saving, she made that boy to realize his mistake by doing the same to that guy along with her gang.

Its time to do her marriage, the groom accepted everything, but they wanted her to be house wife, my sita refused to do so,

She just told “papa we also did our education and job with so much of effort, as a guy did, why should we always sacrifice our carrier, we shall do it when we feel it is required, we give importance to our carrier as we feel insecure, while marring a person and not to showoff!

Can’t we have even this right?”

Once again I lost to my daughter sita! I couldn’t reply, I just put my hand on her head and smiled.  

Now I am not worried about Sita, She is a brave and affectionate girl who listens to my stories even today.

Hope every child becomes like my sita!